Ask For What You Want

Travel has always been a big part of my life. It honors my values of adventure, challenge, connection with different cultures and fun. It began in my 20’s with a backpacking adventure, and even now with a family, we rent out our place and go somewhere for several months at a time.

In a matter of weeks, I can find a tenant, enroll clients and associates into my new schedule and have our support network of friends and family look after things such as pets, plants and paintings. We leave with nothing planned except the first few days’ accommodations and technology has allowed my work to continue from even the most remote places in Africa.

We let everyone know what we are doing, what we want and need and somehow things just seem to fall into place. Have you ever noticed that children continually ask for what they want and expect to get it, but adults have developed a fear around it? Is that because of judgment, fear of failure or that we might just get what we want?

We all have days when everything seems to go right. Having a parking spot open up exactly where we need it, finding the exact house we want, money becoming available for a trip we want to take or a project we want to start. Sometimes people we’ve been trying to reach suddenly call or appear and we can wrap up our business with them quickly and efficiently. Everything is in sync.

These days, over and over again, as soon as I’ve become clear on what it is that I want, the circumstances I need to get it become available to me almost effortlessly. I find that synchronicity operates in many areas of my life – I just have to slow down and pay attention to the messages and possibilities. And then I ask for what I want, with no shame and no guilt.

This is not to say that everything is a piece of cake. But if you like the idea of synchronicity, then make a formal declaration to yourself about what you want and then let others know about it. It might take a day, a month or a year to get it, but put your intention out there and the results might just amaze you.

Do the “Try It Out” exercise below to help you practice asking for what you want

• Identify something you want
• Ask yourself:

• What is one step I can take to get there?

• Who can help me with that first step?
• Who do I need to be to achieve what I want? (ie. courageous, vulnerable, creative)

• Share your thoughts with those around you and ask for what you want

"When you know what you want, and want it badly enough, you'll find a way to get it."
- Jim Rohn